To push or to pull requires an internal decision. This creates the little entity that judges based on its past experience and memories leading to its own agenda.... "What's in it for me?". This is the past(the old, the dead; the background noise) creating the present and projecting the future. Therefore all conflicts stems from the past.
When one sees this fact. Pushing and pulling becomes push-pull. No division. Beyond all forms of conflict. Large or petty.
Try it out for yourself. See what happens. Maybe you'll arrive at something new. Beyond the dead.